At various points in our lives, we deal with negative energy. It's not the energy that's necessarily the problem, but how we react to it. If we let it linger, it can become a massive burden. But if we use the proper tools to combat it, our lives will be better for us and the people around us.
How do you know if your are experiencing negative energy?
Here are some sure signs you might be experiencing negative energy:
- Complaining all the time.
- You talk about what’s wrong in the world, including what’s wrong in the world, including the ‘terrible’ weather, ‘horrible’ traffic, ‘stupid’ in-laws, etc.
- Quick to criticize All the time.
- You blame others, on a consistent basis.
- Always looking to victim blame others.
- Talk about others doing negative things to you.
- You’re ungrateful when things finally start going right for you
- Nothing ever positive seems to happen to you.
Be grateful for everything
As negative energy grabs a hold of someone, it’s important to take account of what we have. Today’s society, especially the younger generation, wants us to believe we are entitled to something without having accomplished anything to earn it.
We are being taught that there are no winners and losers, that everyone is just the same. When reality sets in and we fail, it’s easy to believe that nothing is going our way.
Once we start becoming grateful for everything we have in our lives, including the small things like a roof over our head, access to food and water, the ability to shower, it will better help us learn from the failures to make us better.
This show of gratefulness will soon get noticed by our peers and will foster great relationships going forward, as we’ve shed the “all about me” attitude for a more receiving one. An attitude like this makes your life full of positive, and not negative energy.
Laugh more, particularly at yourself
Negative energy often times is fostered by taking ourselves too seriously. There isn’t anything wrong with having a career-focused mindset and achieving your goals for leading a successful life.
What can hinder achieving your goals that however, is adopting a robotic mindset. Once your do that, you begin to alienate your colleagues, friends and worst of all, your family. You only live once, so why not laugh at yourself?
Laughter helps by lightening our mood and reminding us that life isn’t so serious. People who are typically too serious are easily offended by sarcasm because their lives are consumed by work and no play.
As one of the founders of our country, Benjamin Franklin said, “If you would not be laughed at, be the first to laugh at yourself.”
As previously mentioned, a root cause of negative energy is selfishness that is perpetuating today’s “all about me” culture. In addition to taking account of what we have, we can give back and help others.
This can be as small as holding the door for somebody at a store before evolving into donating money or giving time to a worthy cause.
Helping others may not sound like something that will make a big difference in your life. After all, when you help someone, you are giving up or giving away something that belongs to you.
But the reality is, you are likely in a position where you can help others more than you realize. In addition to doing small things such as holding the door for others, things you do every day can be considered gestures of helpfulness. It is just a matter of how you look at it.
For example, If someone like a friend or family asks you a question or needs assistance of some sort, focus your energy on actually making a difference in that person’s life. Don’t just answer their question. Do it in a manner where you know they have actually gotten a benefit out of crossing paths with you.
You will find that the more you make it a point to help others, the more you will feel a general sense of satisfaction. For some people, when they are in that negative headspace, making it a point o help others is one of the main ways to get out of that funk.
Change your thinking
If you’re always thinking in negative terms, then it’s best time to reassess how you’re thinking. This can be tweaked by a small wording of how you express your thoughts and feelings.
Here’s one idea on how to change it: when you have a negative thought, write or type it out and rephrase it with a positive spin (every bad result is an opportunity).
NEGATIVE: I failed my math test, I clearly suck as a person.
POSITIVE: I failed my math test, I’ll take some time to figure out why, learn from my mistakes, and take the necessary steps to do better on the next one.
Part of changing your thinking is adopting a growth mindset. With a growth mindset, you change your thinking so that things are looked at as opportunities instead of obstacles. With that comes the realization that nothing is ever something that you can't get over. If you fall, fail, or get stuck in a situation, a person with a growth mindset will be able to get over that adversity.
People who think in an opposite manner are known to have a fixed mindset. With a fixed mindset, you will be stuck in a negative headspace that can almost paralyze you from moving forward in whatever you are working on.
What is great about having a growth mindset is the fact that it can be infections. Meaning, if you want to adopt this type of mentality, but are not sure how to start, be mindful and deliberate in spending your time with people who think in a growth mindset manner. Over time, you will be able to pick up on their mannerisms and you will be able to understand how to change your thinking so that you are more open to positive energy.
Surround yourself with positive people
Author Matthew Kelly is quoted as saying, “The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends.”
If the people we surround ourselves with aren’t positive, forward thinking individuals, it will be very hard for us to do the same. If you shed your negative energy and they don’t, it will be more difficult for them to accept you as you are.
Positive people share their perspective opinions, while negative people drag everyone else into the gutter.
In whatever it is that you do in life, whether it be hanging out with your friends, fine tuning your social sphere, or dealing with the people you interact with at work, when you are thinking about the people you interact with, you want to be sure that you are surrounding people who will lift you up instead of bringing you down. All this will have an overall impact in your ability to fight off negative energy.
One key trait of people with a high dose of negative energy is that they are stressed, which typically leads to them lashing out at someone. This is of course very harmful for anyone.
This is an opportunity to take action. If you find yourself in this situation, get away from the desk or the couch and go for a walk, go to the gym; my goodness do something active! Put on some headphones and listen to music and blow off some steam.
Most positive, successful people in this world have a routine, and are good examples to turn to in avoiding negative energy.
Take full responsibility; stop being the victim
When we get a high dose of negativity, we’re prone to finger pointing and absolving ourselves of any blame.
Phrases like “I can’t believe he did that to me” exemplify the victim mentality.
Take the advice of Lao Tzu:
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habit.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny
Our feelings and energy are a result of where we live. When you clean, you’re automatically removing negative energy from your living space. Here’s just a few pithy tips:
- Regularly clean and vacuum every room
- Clean all doors, doorknobs and windows
- Clean your kitchen of food particles every night
- Keep your things organized where they belong
- Get rid of things you no longer need or else you build up clutter
- Remove toxic products
- Keep your laundry in a hamper, NOT on the floor or anywhere else.
Sometimes something as small as moving furniture around can keep things fresh and positive. Moving furniture around once a month will help keep away negative energy.
Don’t keep broken home items or anything you don’t use any longer. It’s best to donate or discard them.
Sunlight and Fresh Air
People with the most negative energy don’t get outside nearly enough. To turn that frown upside down, get outside and experience all that is wonderful about it.
The sunshine will help you produce some much needed vitamin D and even help relieve anxiety and depression.
Another good idea is to dry out your laundry in the sunlight. Don’t forget to let your plants get some of that sunlight, too!
The vibrations and sound that comes from loud clapping allows negative energy to disperse.
When we think about loud boisterous sounds, Mother Nature comes to mind with rain and thunderstorms.
Your clapping should be light and crisp. Heavy and sluggish clapping indicates negativity.
In addition to clapping, you can also use bells, chimes or drums to break the negative energy patterns
Going back to Mother Nature, she provides you with a plethora of options to cleanse negative energy from your home. One option would be to take what you can from the outdoors and bring it inside.
There’s several wonderful plants and herbs that you can put inside your home to curb negative energy. They also add beauty to your home and ensure you have plenty of oxygen.
Be sure you can water and maintain them, including plenty of sunlight. Here are some good ideas for plants in your home:
- Aloe vera
- Holy basil
- lucky bamboo
- Money plant
- Peace lily
Using Only A Glass Of Water/Sea Salt
At this point we’ve gone over what causes negative energy along with some very helpful tips. Here’s another one along with a video via Gostica:
Get a clear glass and pour sea salt in it – it should cover about a third of the glass. Top the glass off with water, then put it in the room where you think the bad vibes are most powerful. Put the glass in a hidden spot and leave it for a full day.
Make sure no one moves it from the spot. After 24 hours, examine the glass – if it’s just like you left it, there are no negative energies in that room. You can try the trick in another room and see what happens. If the glass has smudges and is clearly not like you left it, it is a result of energy problems.
In this case, repeat the procedure again with a new glass, and repeat until it’s as clean as you left it.
Alice grew up in Los Angeles and currently lives in California, though she likes to visit home frequently. She graduated from a marketing specialist degree and worked at the core of outreach teams for more than 5 years.